You are in a place you never thought you would be with someone you love.
Saying it is hard and painful is an understatement.
You will get to the other side with freedom and joy.
It is brave to start again.

Here is what I know:

  • You are not broken, but you feel shattered.

  • Things will get better

  • You will get though this.

You do not have to navigate this alone.


Just like a birth doula supports a new mother through all the parts of having a baby; the beginnings, the messes, the late nights and the fatigue-driven overthinking spirals, as your divorce doula, I’ll be your shoulder through it all. An additional resource to work through the complicated divorce process as extra support, advice, a listening ear and help while navigating frustrating unfair systems.

It is brave to take chances and say yes to love.
It is brave to change your mind, pivot and get a do over.

I am someone you can call to work through ideas and feelings with when you get to a place you need someone else.
I’m there for the times when you don’t need a friend, parent, lawyer or therapist. You feel shame, they don’t get it, they cost too much or you have so much else to go over.

  • You want to talk about lighting their house on fire (probably not the best to tell your therapist this, but definitely google Kelly Clarkson talking about it)

  • You don’t want to waste your lawyers $500/hr billable rate to share feelings.

  • You want to save your therapy hour to talk about the trauma you are now dealing with from marrying this a**hole.

  • Friends and family are supportive, they don’t get it and you are need someone that does.

How it works?

  • Book one thirty minute coaching call for $75. If you decide you want more, you can book them as needed. Simple, uncomplicated, here when you need me.

  • Contact me and let me know you are interested. I send you a short form to fill out with a booking link to set up a session.

  • Email is included between calls because I know you get text messages from people at weird hours that you want to screenshot and scream about. I get it.

 

Things we might talk about/things you might be saying/thinking that are completely normal and understandable! (underline that)

  • Who the F did I marry

  • My friends are tired of hearing about this.

  • No one understands. They are there but no one understands. 

  • I’m so alone

  • How do I respond to this text message with my ex

  • Wtf are they talking about

  • How do I do this? 

  • Taking care of yourself how to feel yourself/bare minimum so you can get through it

  • Cycles of anger, sad and fear. 

  • Working through the loss of friendships and other relationships (some people that you thought would show up for you are gone, some that you didn't’ expect to are there

  • Walking the fine of distraction and full avoidance.

I’ve heard it all (and thought most of it!) I know how painful it can be to share what happening, how it sounds so outragous and how hurt you are. The tornado of feelings all out once of outrage with pain, overwhelm with rage and so many tears. It sucks, I get it and I can help you ride the rollercoaster because I’ve been on it and know how fast the turns go and it feels like it won’t stop. It does and having help from someone that has been there makes all the difference.

Who am I and why am I doing this work

I started working as a coach in 2014 working with people in their food, body and self worth. I’ve helped people see that there are always new ways to show up for ourselves that aren’t hating ourselves and trying to be smaller in every way. You can spend less time, money and energy in never-ending cycles of beating yourself up for not being perfect.

With all this experience in coaching and supporting others, I have also been through my own turning points from career shifts, international moves, returning to school later in life and of course divorce.

When I was going through a divorce I didn’t know anyone going through something similar.
I needed someone to talk to at that really understand what this was like.

  • You find scrolling social media helpful, but a stranger to rant to and rage with about EVERYTHING that gets you would be helpful.

  • You do feel alone and you don't want to burden people even when they are supportive.

  • You know your friends and family are there for you for the big stuff, but they do want you to just move on.

  • You need someone to repeat the same things to over and over and can help you work through the rage.

  • It’s cheaper to talk to a divorce doula than sharing feelings with your lawyer with a very high billable rate.

  • You should save some of your therapy hour for deep diving on the trauma, less on the “can you believe he said this” chat. Bring that to me. I will be mad with you.

    All of this is devastating, resilience building and very confusing experience.

    There are so many things I wish I knew and could have had help with.

    I want to help people avoid the pitfalls I did.

    Is this a real thing? Divorce doula?

    Yes! Check out this article for more info. https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2023/nov/28/divorce-coach-doulas

  • —> if I link here it is promoting others?


    TLDR, because we know you’re trying to process all of this and don’t have the attention span to read every word of this page

    I can help you.

    Divorce sucks.

    I’ve been there. Let’s talk.

    Where we start: If you are interested, your next step is to book a session. From there you are free to book more when you find me

    Have a question? let me know — link to email


    LINK TO Booking page.

    Book a session here, You will be sent a confirm email, there is a form to fill out na payment prior to session. Post session, I will send a follow up email to check in and you can book a follow up there if you are interested in continued support.